Sunday, February 24, 2013

BEST JOE SO FAR

(Morning)
       That's my friend, I'm the creep-toes standing unknowingly above her taking the shot.  This is what a good morning looks like in Nashville.  The sun percolating through sheer curtains (a great buy from the Franklin antinque mall), surrounded by books (from the little vintage bookstore in Hillsboro) and the scent of coffee stains, pens for moments of ingenius thoughts, and of course a phone...which can be debated as a burden as well as a blessing depending on what you're trying to get done or who's contacting (or not contacting) you. Wink, wink.

(warning: the following may turn into one long tangent as I explain one thing to the next until I have exhausted myself from dealing with any more possible variables, but I promise I'll get to the BEST JOE SO FAR, somewhere...maybe in the middle, like a hidden needle in a haystack...muahahaha.) :/

       One of the things I love about a Nashville Sunday morning is the anticipation of getting to go to church.  Most cities that I've been to don't place an emphasis on church, which doesn't make it any more or less sincere for the attendees, but Nashville has an atmosphere of normalcy about it, being in the bible-belt it comes as no surprise, but albeit.  Now, granted that may have a crippling effect, but in one case (the case for which I will expand on), it emanates a well-spring of joy that starts out as a light mist in a morning without the call of work lingering at the corner, then a refreshing dew on what is usually a routine of "getting ready" to a slowly increasing river of calm that arrives when you really begin to grasp that it's all about drawing near to Love, Himself.  Now there are times when certain "distractions" must be dealt with; a person of interest you naturally feel nervous about is at church and you end up having a stressful morning of deciding what to wear or how to organically have your paths cross, or maybe, like me, you're just lazy sometimes.  You had a late night (or you didn't), and you just feel like a lump of coal nicely settled between your soft bed cushion and down comforter when you hear your alarm go off, everything mentioned above becomes daunting and uncomfortable.  Let's be real, there are more of those kinds of mornings than the great peaceful one I described prior to listing some of the "distractions", and that's actually to be expected.  As a Christian, I have my reasons and views for why this is, but from an observational point of view it seems that most good things in life, things that will benefit us in deep and meaningful ways (ie: relationships, jobs, physical/mental health, etc) all come with the need for an intentional effort that fights a rather beastly part of ourselves, which I like to call COMFORT.  Others call it Selfishness or Self-centeredness, Fear, Apathy, Depression, or whatever you think most resonates with you, but to get to the point, those things we want most in life most usually require some degree of a fight within ourselves.  The degree of the battle depends on the person, but I have yet to meet someone who has their life all-put together and feels that he or she would not change a thing about what they are doing.  One person may want to be more healthy, even though no one holds a gun to their head to eat that brownie or deep-fried oreo, they still have the choice.  Another may want to be closer to their significant other or even just their friend, but the thought of opening up and being vulnerable is terrifying (especially if, like me, you know that doing so would reveal some rather not-so-pleasant things), not impossible, just terrifying.  So, from my experience, when my "distractions" or laziness suddenly come like a kamikaze on what is supposed to be a joyful Sunday morning, I remember to stop and think.  I think about history.  My history.  I think about the effort that I sometimes have to search for painstakingly, a fight that sometimes feels close to death or sometimes just a few nicks and bruises, I recall upon what I know to be true from observation.  This recalling sometimes is a battle in itself, since I know that if I lose the will to conjure up effort I will feel like even more of failure for having presented myself with what I know and essentially choosing to run away with my tail between my legs, so maybe if I don't think about thinking I can give myself the excuse of having "forgotten" about everything.  Then going back to bed.  Usually with a xeric (word of the day! adj: adapted to a dry environment) outlook with impending doom on the horizon.  Or maybe that's too dramatic, but that's how I see it sometimes.  So, like having a great friend/lover, substantial energy, and superfluous ambition, I would recommend choosing to wake up on a Sunday morning (and speaking ideally, not just on a Sunday, but let's take baby steps).  Because in the end, who doesn't want to love and be loved?  I don't mean the broken kind of love that we offer to one another, but the love that can be most closely compared to the love of a mother (or father or caretaker) for her child...this could get messy with all the messed up parents out there, for which I am sorry to hear about and which are obviously nothing close to what I am talking about, but like I said it's only a close resemblance, but really it barely begins to cover the amount of love that Love, Himself has for you.  

       Now, from being at the Frothy Monkey to Sam and Zoes, Fido to Crema, Provence to J and J's Market and Cafe, The Well to Starbucks, a Keurig to Brazilian ground instant coffee, from all of these (and more) places I have tried, I have found the best cup of joe is coincidentally piping cozily in the gleaming silver coffee dispensers at The Village Chapel. :)  A perfect blend of subtle to wake you, but keep you at disposition not far from what some would call "zen".  Adieu friends.  

JmeGrey




Saturday, February 23, 2013

The First Post

       Let us mark this day, February 23, 2013, as an epic day.  Today I write my first public blog, 500th regular blog, 90th cafe blog, and zillionth attempted "epic blog".  What is an epic blog?  Well, for starters, epic-asy(?), as beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.  So to all those who behold this blog, welcome to my blog.  I can not, will not, in fact should not say much further about what this blog will hold for you, since my words, like thoughts, change and intertwine like earbuds in your pocket (only 100 times thinner and longer).  It will be a space for you to, for some mildly intrusive reason, get a good look into my mind maybe in hopes of finding a similarity, stark contrast, humor, or my personal favorite, conversation-starter (I totally came up with that "my personal favorite" after a few minutes of thinking, but quite honestly a similarity, stark contrast, or humor could just have well been "my personal favorite" if I had thought of conversation-starter before the others).  Sometimes I say things that, to me, sound epic, but I try to be as honest as I have room for in my eager little heart.  I do like to please people, but honesty is the most pleasant attribute that I find in others.  So I can promise to try to accomplish the following for my blog:

1.  I will not use thesaurus.com/dictionary.com for my personal content, if I do not know what the word means than I don't expect you too either, but the caveat is that I may take some long tangent to explain something where the right word or words are displaced.

2.  I will update (at least) weekly (....scary thought, mostly since I tend to start things and not finish them.  Sigh.)

3.  I will try not to try not to try not to try not to try to try to try to try. hehehe.


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Ok, here we go.

      I tend to be a victim of facial crumbs and clingers.  I think I look into a mirror on a daily basis, and even at a frequency not far from snacking (I guess you'd have to know if I snacked frequently to get a better idea of this, but that'll come in time my friend.)  However, I have the unfortunate habit of not checking a mirror when I actually have something to clean off my face before presenting it, say, to a new employer or stranger or date.  So the other day I had finished off my protein shake which is loaded with all sorts of ground, crushed, minced, fibery-plant-based goodness when my kids's mother came home with her out-of-towner friends.  (I'm a nanny).  We, I and the mother and her friend, chatted about the 5 year olds science project and all sorts of other friendly things for a good 15 minutes, all the while I noticed this strange look of ....disgust? horror? on the friends face.  She even apologized when I introduced myself, and for a moment I didn't know if she was apologizing for her countenance or for not introducing herself first, but I brushed it off as a weird lady's bad habit.  Got into my car, and of course was only 20 minutes late in checking the mirror to find that I had two huge bits of dark brown smoothie remains smeared across my upper and lower lip so that it may have looked like I had previously gorged on the mothers' chocolate stash while she was away and I was supposedly looking after her children.  Not uncommon, but still never without a sighing moment of being humiliated and humored.

       Also.  what's worse than food stuck on your face in front of another person?  Not much, but something that follows closely behind is food caught by the front of your shirt cowl, or for guys (unless you're a guy who likes to wear cowl-neck shirts...which is fine, just not average in America, but you're special, and unique...and here I go again trying to please everyone) the front of your scarf.  It's strangely so different than a crumb or bit of food fallen on your lap or even the front of your shirt, but when it lands on your scarf or cowl (which is just a droopy turtle neck) it feels...shameful.  It's almost as if the shirt was made to protect you from crumbs falling on your lap, but when it does catch a piece it's so personal and close to your face as if to say "Look at this!  This crumb!  Look! Inches away from your face.  This happened because you missed the opening of your mouth.  I'm not a napkin, I'm your shirt, and I had to do your mouth's job because you couldn't."  I apologize to my cowls and scarves more often than I'd like.

-Jme-Grey